Is Your Fear Fake?
I heard a cool acronym for “fear” recently and I love and hate it at the same time.
False
Evidence
Appearing
Real
Fear can be exaggerated, sure. But I don’t want you to dismiss its messages, as we always have something to learn. By listening and shifting, we can begin to reclaim our voice, leverage our power and make an impact!
The Skinny On Fear
Fear is a daily occurrence for us. On a large scale, if we’re in unhealthy relationships or environments. But micro-occurrences can also cause us to react from a place of fear in the moment. What irks me about all this is that it alters how we feel, quiets our strength and voice, and ultimately affects the impact we have on our career and life.
That state of fight, flight or freeze is real. It’s what our ancestors had to do when they were on constant alert of being eaten by a tiger. It’s highly unlikely that we’ll be involved in a...
How to Engage Others to Move an Issue Forward, Without Ticking Them Off
My post on 4/3 tackled getting into alignment at work and it was a doozie! Many of you had requests to go a bit deeper into the content, so I am breaking it in pieces to share a bit more about each of the “7 Ways To Get Alignment At Work” (and in life!). This is an expansion of tip #5: Ask Questions and Listen
Focus on Them
If you’re working to get alignment with others, you have to make it about them first. What are their opinions on the situation or topic?
This should be a balanced approach, as you want your interaction to be forward-looking and solution-focused and not appear to accuse them of anything. Often, before we get there we need to allow the other person to “catch up.” Specifically, you want to understand how the other person believes they are impacting the situation/outcomes. There’s a dance that needs to happen here:
- Share what you believe is the situation. Ask for their thoughts. ...